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Dear Bitter Butch: How Do I Politely Exit A Conversation?

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Dear Bitter Butch: Thank you for your advice about smalltalk.  I have a follow-up  question. How do you politely disengage from small talk? I don’t mind chatting with a random stranger for a minute or two, but I don’t want to get stuck awkwardly trying to keep up a conversation with them for half an hour. And I have. It’s …

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Dear Bitter Butch: Should I Out Myself As Straight?

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Dear Bitter Butch, I tend to use gender-neutral language to avoid being heteronormative, most people assume this is code for “I’m GAY everybody!” They will then use incorrect pronouns when referring to my partner. While I am totally fine with their assumptions I wonder if I should correct them as a) it feels dishonest to continue as if their assumption …

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Dear Bitter Butch: How Do I Talk To My Children About Heteronormativity?

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Psst, Bitter Butch, help! How do I explain to my kids that there’s a whole lot of heteronormativity and monogamous expectation in the world? They’ve been raised a-religiously, around a lot of queer, alternative relationship structures and around people who are gender variant, and thus far haven’t absorbed the idea that there’s a whole world of “relationships are one born-man …

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Dear Bitter Butch: My Partner Loves Her Sick Cat More Than Her Family

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Dear Bitter Butch, I deeply love and am committed to my partner. I love her, love being with her, and love our relationship. I want to be a great partner in a healthy, loving way. We’ve been through a few tough situations- a kid in the hospital, work stuff, etc and she and I usually work through it really well. …

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The Five Things I’ve Learned About Starting My Own Law Firm

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About two months have passed since I decided to stop alternating between applying for jobs that I had no chance of getting, and driving hours on end to the armpit of California for jobs that I didn’t want. That existence was quickly driving me insane, so I figured I’d rather embark into the exciting world of SELF-EMPLOYMENT. As someone who …

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Dear Bitter Butch: How Does Someone Refuse Unhelpful ‘Help’?

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Hi Bitter Butch, I’m going blindo. I have night blindness and some peripheral vision loss, but I’m nowhere near legally blind and don’t need a cane yet. It basically means I take a little longer to get around, especially in the dark, since I have to scan back and forth to get the whole picture (if that makes any sense).  …

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Dear Bitter Butch: I Just Got Married And It Isn’t Going Well

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Dear Bitter Butch, My wedding was a month ago, and things aren’t going very well. My husband is withholding sex. He has done this before, and I know you are probably going to say I shouldn’t have married someone so childish and selfish. But, I did, and now I just need to figure out what to do going forward. I’ve given …

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Dear Bitter Butch: Are My Relatives Introverts Or Just Jerks?

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Dear Bitter Butch, Please help me understand and deal with my introverted relatives! I am extroverted and thrive on interaction with others. When I have been left alone without human contact for too long, I begin to go a little batty. Over Thanksgiving, my sibling + spouse + kids came over to my folks’ place for dinner. I watched as …

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Dear Bitter Butch: How Do I Avoid Talking About My Illness At Work?

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Dear Bitter Butch, People at work seem to want to know details about my chronic condition. I’ve told them that I have fibromyalgia, which is why I sometimes miss work. They ask questions about my medications and doctors. I’d rather not discuss these things. It doesn’t help that they talk freely about their colds, headaches, surgeries, hot flashes, etc. What …

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